Are you going through a difficult separation/divorce? Are you having trouble not feeling hate towards your ex-partner, or are you feeling like they are sending hate towards you?

It is not the best for you, your children, or your ex to end with such feelings. It gets in the way of future relationships for both people to leave without some closure. Closure means that YOU AGREE TO DISAGREE…..that simple…they want apples, you want oranges. Yes, there are many complications sometimes, and it can get very messy or confused.

BUT…….there are ways, in most cases, with the help of a marital negotiator/psychotherapist, and with an attitude to do what is best for everyone’s good……………..

First there is some crucial individual work on each partner’s shoulders……….to look at what is really going on inside one’s heart and soul……after you know that..you will get clear as to how to proceed……It usually takes professional help to see this, at least at first, because so many powerful emotions have surfaced, which can blind clarity.

One does not need to forgive in the usual sense. One can express anger and sadness and not feel guilty about feeling these emotions, which is common in such situations…you are not bad.

SO, COUPLES’ COUNSELLING is good even if you think you will separate….to obtain some clarity about who you are and what you need and want. Then you can move on with dignity and strength, with the least possible “HANGOVER” to carry as useless baggage into the rest of your life and your childrens’ life, if applicable.

Last but not least, if you cannot bear to go into a third party session (counselling) with your partner, then AT LEAST GO TO COUNSELLING BY YOURSELF. YOU GET BETTER. YOU MOVE ON IN YOUR OWN TIME AND WAY.

YOU CAN DO IT! I have seen it done many times, not enough times though!!!!!
“All situations are workable if we put our enlightened mind towards it.”
Gina Keegan, RCC., SEP