”  When the queen in question happens to be your mother, it tends to up the ante.  One client shared an incident where she and her mother were sitting in lawn chairs at an outdoor concert when her mom looked at her, shielding her eyes, and said: ‘Change seats with me, Deborah.  The sun is in my eyes.’  When Deborah didn’t automatically agree, as she typically did, her mom looked away , and dropped into a dead silence.  It may sound like a small incident, but it was just one in a lifetime of similar instances where the ice queen put her needs before those of her child.”  (Disarming the Narcissist. by Wendy Behary, p.32.)