Excerpts from DISARMING THE NARCISSIST, by Wendy Behary There are few challenges in psychotherapy more difficult than treating the narcissist. This is the client who finally comes to therapy because a partner said: “Get help or get out.” Or perhaps … Read More
My personal definition: Spiritual person cares how they effect others. Spiritual person is willing to examine their behavior and beliefs to see if they should change in order to become a wiser and more compassionate person. Spiritual person does not … Read More
PANIC ATTACKS are very uncomfortable, sometimes terrifying. One feels frozen with fear, as the mind races on and on , with pictures of the worse case scenario. It can make one feel truly unable to function. Take heart! There is … Read More
In order to get through an uncomfortable feeling, one must go THROUGH THE FEELING, NOT AROUND IT. It does not work to put the feeling under the rug, so to speak, or ignore it, or keep drinking alcohol when it … Read More
Good communication skills are crucial during times of stress in the family. Use of these skills makes the difference between huge, unnecessary stress/anxiety, and confusion. VS. Feeling you are not all alone, and at least you have been heard. This … Read More
(Sam Roberts Band) or “something is missing” (how to find the real gold.) The above quote is taken from lyrics of the popular Sam Roberts Band. I hear this idea over and over in my private psychotherapy practice. Is this … Read More
“In all kinds of situations, we can find out what is true simply by studying ourselves in every nook and cranny, in every black hole and bright spot, whether its murky, creepy, grisly, splendid, spooky, frightening, joyful, inspiring, peaceful, or … Read More
“In the cycle of nature there is no such thing as victory or defeat; there is only movement.” (p. 16) This reading from Manuscript Found in Accra by Paulo Coelho describes the necessity for us to experience defeat in order … Read More
Usually, because we are not educated about interpersonal communication in our schools, families, or churches…..the usual pattern of “Stuck” communication between couples is something like the following: one person or both feel disrespected or misunderstood or in disagreement conversation gets … Read More