THE REAL MEANING OF “TIME OFF”
Being “on call” is not time off…at any moment in the back of your mind you know you might have to “jump to it.”…….to answer to a boss or other demand in which WHAT YOU WANT DOES NOT MATTER, or … Read More
Anger Management Participants are Brave
Anger Management class participants are sometimes given less than deserved recognition for being brave, in my opinion. It is not easy to face one’s painful emotions like IMPATIENCE, FRUSTRATION, ANGER, RESENTMENT, RAGE. These are the main angry-like feelings, but the … Read More
I have…..made a lot of mistakes in this case. Mistakes are almost inevitable in our profession. During every investigation, especially at the start we grope. Every step, no matter how carefully taken, can lead in the wrong direction. We can never be afraid to make mistakes. People who are afraid to make mistakes avoid making decisions. It begins with circumventing and ends in fearful inaction, something peace officers can not afford. No, Dick, I’ve never been afraid to make mistakes, never dodged decisions.
A.C. Baantjer, DeKok and the Dead Harlequin, (p. 206). This quote is from DeKok, the famous Dutch detective hero, talking to Dick, his assistant, in the Dead Harlequin story, one of dozens of mysteries written by Baantjer.
It’s not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it
(Very true!) You will leave this class with skills to communicate that will allow you both to express yourselves in safe, productive ways. Then openness, clarity, and intimacy can increase. This class is helpful to couples just getting to know … Read More
“ANGER IS YOUR FRIEND” CLASSES FOR ALL!
DON’T BE ASHAMED IF YOU FEEL ANGER, RAGE or FRUSTRATION. ANGER IS NOT THE PROBLEM; it’s what you do with the anger that makes it a friend or enemy. In fact, if you don’t get angry at some situations, then … Read More
How is S.E Trauma Therapy Different?
HOW DOES S.E. (SOMATIC EXPERIENCING) DIFFER FROM OTHER THERAPEUTIC MODALITIES? 1. SE. helps to develop the organismic capacity for self regulation 2. SE. employs awareness of body sensation to help people “renegotiate” and heal rather than relive or reenact trauma. … Read More
Living is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how. The moment you know how, you begin to die a little. The artist never knows. We guess. We may be wrong but we take leap after leap in the dark.
Agnes de Mille
When I am teaching in the West, people talk about self-loathing and self-aggression. That is coming from a sense of unworthiness…. Without a feeling of worthiness, human society and communication naturally become vehicles of manipulation and deception, and we use every activity to shore ourselves up or to outdo someone else. Through this false sense of power, life becomes a perpetual unfolding of doubt, which only confirms the inadequacies we perceive and elicits a feeling of alienation. My father called it the “setting sun”. This term describes a time when humanities sense of dignity and purpose is diminishing, like sunlight at the end of the day. What is setting is our ability to recognize our goodness.
Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche